It’s over. The end of a relationship is always hard, no matter how amicable the split may be. Whether you were the dumpee or the dumper, getting over a breakup is a process that takes time, patience, and lots of self-care. Here are some proven tips to help you get over a breakup and move on with your life.
Give yourself time to grieve
The first and most important step in getting over a breakup is to give yourself time to grieve. This is not a race, there is no finish line, and there is no “right” way to do it. Grieving is a process that looks different for everyone. Some people cry for hours on end, others internalize their feelings and become withdrawn, and still others become angry and lash out.
Whatever your grieving process looks like, it’s important to allow yourself to feel your feelings and to express them in a healthy way. Bottle up your emotions and they will come out eventually, often in destructive ways.
Talk about it
One of the best ways to process your emotions and start to heal is to talk about your breakup with someone you trust. This could be a friend, family member, therapist, or anyone else who will lend a non-judgmental ear.
If you’re feeling really stuck, consider seeking out professional help. A therapist can help you identify and work through the emotions you’re feeling and offer impartial guidance and support.
Cut off contact
If you want to move on, it’s important to cut off contact with your ex. This means no text messages, no social media stalking, and no late-night phone calls. It’s hard, but it’s necessary if you want to heal and move on with your life.
If you have to see your ex on a regular basis (for example, if you work together or have mutual friends), try to keep your interactions as civil and brief as possible. And don’t be afraid to set boundaries as needed.
Focus on self-care
Now is the time to focus on taking care of yourself, both physically and emotionally. This means eating a healthy diet, getting regular exercise, getting enough sleep, and taking breaks when you need them.
It’s also important to do things that make you happy and make you feel good about yourself. This might include spending time with friends and family, taking up a new hobby, or indulging in a little retail therapy.
Give yourself time
Finally, remember that healing takes time. There is no magic formula for getting over a breakup, and there will be good days and bad days. But as long as you’re taking care of yourself and giving yourself time to grieve, the bad days will eventually start to outnumbered the good ones.