It’s over. They finally ended things and you’re left feeling overwhelmed with hurt, anger, and betrayal. How could they do this to you? You thought things were going so well. You spent all of those late nights talking, all of those weekends cuddling, and all of those inside jokes that only the two of you understood. They were your everything and now they’re gone. You cry yourself to sleep every night and think about them every waking moment. You wonder if you’ll ever be able to move on.
The first step is to accept that it’s over. They made their decision and there’s nothing you can do to change that. It’s going to hurt, but you need to realize that they’re not coming back.
The second step is to give yourself time to grieve. This is a process that takes time. You need to allow yourself to feel the pain, anger, and betrayal. It’s okay to cry, to scream, and to break down. Just know that it won’t last forever.
The third step is to start taking care of yourself. When you’re in pain, it’s easy to neglect your own needs. But if you want to heal, you need to take care of yourself both physically and emotionally. Eat healthy foods, get plenty of rest, and exercise to release endorphins. Take time for yourself to do things that make you happy.
The fourth step is to reach out to your support system. Lean on your friends and family for love and understanding. They can’t take away your pain, but they can help you through this tough time.
The fifth step is to talk about what happened. It’s okay to talk about your hurt and anger. In fact, it’s necessary. Keeping everything bottled up will only make it harder to heal.
The sixth step is to forgive. This is probably the hardest part, but it’s so important. Forgive yourself for any part you may have played in the breakup. Forgive them for hurting you. Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting; it just means letting go of the hurt.
The seventh step is to let go of any material possessions that remind you of them. This includes clothing, jewelry, photos, and anything else that brings back memories. It’s okay to keep a few sentimental items, but get rid of anything that’s just a reminder of the pain.
The eighth step is to block them on social media. Seeing their face every time you log on will only make it harder to move on. If you have mutual friends, you may need to take a break from social media altogether.
The ninth step is to focus on the future. Start making plans for your life without them. Set new goals and start working towards them. The more you focus on the future, the less you’ll dwell on the past.
The tenth and final step is to give yourself time. Healing is a process that takes time. There are no shortcuts. Be patient with yourself and eventually, the pain will fade and you’ll be able to move on.