It’s over. You’ve finally ended things with your ex. But now what? How do you get over them and move on? Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you do just that.
1. Allow yourself to grieve
This is probably the most important (and hardest) step. You need to allow yourself to feel the pain, hurt, and anger that come with the breakup. Cry if you need to, punch a pillow, write in a journal—do whatever you need to do to get those feelings out. Suppressing your emotions will only make it harder to move on in the long run.
2. Cut off all communication
This means no texts, no calls, no Snapchat, no nothing. If you want to move on, you need to cut off all communication with your ex. This includes social media. Unfriend, unfollow, and block them if you have to. Seeing their face or hearing their voice will only make it harder to let go.
3. Delete all reminders
Get rid of anything that reminds you of your ex. Delete their number from your phone, throw away any gifts they’ve given you, and delete any photos of them from your social media accounts. You need to do whatever you can to rid your life of any reminder of them.
4. Distract yourself
Keeping yourself busy is one of the best ways to get over your ex. Join a new club, start a new hobby, or spend more time with your friends and family. Doing things that make you happy will help take your mind off your ex and make it easier to move on.
5. Focus on the future
It’s important to remember that there’s so much more to life than your ex. Yes, the breakup hurts now, but eventually, you’ll find someone new who makes you happier than your ex ever did. So instead of dwelling on the past, focus on the future and all the great things that are yet to come.